Did you enjoy that rhyme? That was just for you. Sometimes I just amaze myself.
But seriously: Manfriend and I leave in two weeks for Hawaii, and it simultaneously is way too close and can't come soon enough. I'm mostly racking up paranoia over my last two weeks as an undergrad, with one research paper due tomorrow, another due Friday, a presentation tomorrow, an oral exam on Monday, plus two other exams on Monday, plus my Capstone presentation on Monday, and one more research paper and take-home final next Friday. Oh, and another take-home final. Joy. All around joy and bliss. And I forgot--my surprise shower/graduation party I'm not supposed to know about. Well, I don't know when (yes I do) or where it is. The "where" will be a surprise. Blame Manfriend for spilling the beans, but in actuality, I'm glad he did. I simply have way too much to fret over without being bustled away for a party on a night I potentially scheduled for studying. Gah! I just remembered we still have to do our check-out dives for scuba!
Does anyone want to do any of this for me? I think I can actually see some of my hair turning white as I type this.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Buying into the dominant patriarchy in regards to looks and mentality
Yeah, right. I have a particular professor who I don't see eye-to-eye with. She's very much a liberal feminist, which is fine, but what I fail to understand when people are highly opinionated on matters of opinion, is why they feel the need to bully me into their way of thinking. I know that our society is dominated by the patriarchy--many are. I know that women continue to make on average a quarter less in salary than men, and that Hispanic and black women are even lower. This continues to be a problem, because in a country where we tout "all men are created equal," we're certainly not referring to women, or even all men for that matter.
I get it.
Now let's get back to what I don't get. We're talking about perceptions of beauty in various cultures, and FemNazi says, "You wouldn't believe all the ridiculous ingredients that are in beauty products." I chimed in with, "Oh, I know. I started tanning and my friend told me the best tanning lotion had emu oil in it."
What does she take away from that? The fact that I'm tanning. Now, she says, I'm going to get cancer and I should embrace pale skin and yada yada yada. I tell her I agree with her, but I'm going to get married in Hawaii next month and I don't want to get burned so I'm building up a base tan.
Once again, she continues her rant with complete disregard for my reasons. "Well, you should just stay out of the sun!"
Lady, I'm going to Hawaii. To get married. On the beach. We're going to be there for three days before the wedding for a ten-day-total trip. I do not want wedding pictures that look like they're representing China (read: I do not want to be tomato-red in a white dress). I also am not going to Hawaii to stay out of the sun. What's the point? Oh, I'm in Hawaii and I'm just going to sit in the shade while you go out and have a blast in the water. What? It's overcast? Well, dear husband, mom always said that you can get the worst sunburns when it's overcast, so I think I'll just sit back here with my pina colada, my Kindle, and a gallon of depression.
Eff that.
Hey FemNazi, did you know that you're more likely to get skin cancer if you get burned really bad? Also, did you stop to think that maybe I have a little skin condition on my upper arms called keratosis pilaris that lessens with UV exposure? No, no, you'd rather just shame me in public, saying that I'm the epitome of patriarchal female-body-image-acceptance, likening me to the women in China and Japan who are getting their skin bleached. Hell, for all you know, maybe I'm making a political statement in order to be as black as possible. White skin is, after all, the deformity resulting from a lack of pigmentation.
Sincerely,
Me
P.S. Bully for you that you're 60-ish and hardly grey at all. Did you know that when you brag about keeping your dark hair, you're buying into the patriarchal image of female beauty?
I get it.
Now let's get back to what I don't get. We're talking about perceptions of beauty in various cultures, and FemNazi says, "You wouldn't believe all the ridiculous ingredients that are in beauty products." I chimed in with, "Oh, I know. I started tanning and my friend told me the best tanning lotion had emu oil in it."
What does she take away from that? The fact that I'm tanning. Now, she says, I'm going to get cancer and I should embrace pale skin and yada yada yada. I tell her I agree with her, but I'm going to get married in Hawaii next month and I don't want to get burned so I'm building up a base tan.
Once again, she continues her rant with complete disregard for my reasons. "Well, you should just stay out of the sun!"
Lady, I'm going to Hawaii. To get married. On the beach. We're going to be there for three days before the wedding for a ten-day-total trip. I do not want wedding pictures that look like they're representing China (read: I do not want to be tomato-red in a white dress). I also am not going to Hawaii to stay out of the sun. What's the point? Oh, I'm in Hawaii and I'm just going to sit in the shade while you go out and have a blast in the water. What? It's overcast? Well, dear husband, mom always said that you can get the worst sunburns when it's overcast, so I think I'll just sit back here with my pina colada, my Kindle, and a gallon of depression.
Eff that.
Hey FemNazi, did you know that you're more likely to get skin cancer if you get burned really bad? Also, did you stop to think that maybe I have a little skin condition on my upper arms called keratosis pilaris that lessens with UV exposure? No, no, you'd rather just shame me in public, saying that I'm the epitome of patriarchal female-body-image-acceptance, likening me to the women in China and Japan who are getting their skin bleached. Hell, for all you know, maybe I'm making a political statement in order to be as black as possible. White skin is, after all, the deformity resulting from a lack of pigmentation.
Sincerely,
Me
P.S. Bully for you that you're 60-ish and hardly grey at all. Did you know that when you brag about keeping your dark hair, you're buying into the patriarchal image of female beauty?
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